What Is Zen Sex?

The way of Zen is a way to true wisdom. Zen is not a religion, just a pure spiritual philosophy connecting you in the most basic way to the core of your being -- the source from which all things are created, and thereby transcending the boundaries of time and space.

What is true wisdom, or, more specifically, Zen wisdom?

According to Zen, you are of the very thing you are looking for. In other words, you don't have to look outside of yourself to find what you are looking for. In Zen, everything is within yourself. The key to true wisdom is within yourself; just look inward!

In Zen wisdom, the sage keeps to the beginning to discover the end. Essentially, that means:

You look without seeking . . . .

You arrive without leaving. . . .

You know without understanding. . . .

As a matter of fact, knowing without understanding is enlightenment. In Zen, enlightenment cannot be taught; it must be experienced. Essentially, Zen is an experience, and, as such, it has to be self-intuited. The explanation is that Zen focuses on "spontaneity" -- the naturalness of things. This spontaneity is totally unlike the Biblical concept of "seek and you shall find" -- that is, if you seek God, you will find Him. In Zen, you do everything without consciously doing it. As a matter of fact, there is a saying: "If you seek Buddha, you will lose it." Buddha will come to you without your seeking it.

So, what is Zen sex?

Sex is sacred: it is the essence of creation. Human sexual desire is natural, and therefore should neither be denied nor repressed.

Zen sex is doing what comes naturally in every moment to express naturally in every sexual act. Zen sex is a spontaneous experience to be enjoyed. There is nothing in sex that is regarded as a taboo. Sex never becomes a performance. Sex is not a means to satisfy your sexual pleasure or that of your partner. Sex is no more than an experience of discovery -- discovering the desires and needs of yourself and those of your partner -- and love, which is the transcendent climax of sex when you feel that higher power of love.

Discovery brings in another aspect of Zen wisdom -- the need to "empty" your mind in order to be receptive to new experiences. You have to "empty" yourself of any preconceived ideas before you can discover the new ones. In other words, to fully enjoy Zen sex, you must not attach to any preconceived ideas of what sex should be like; you just enjoy it as you experience it and as it comes along.

Zen emphasizes "no expectations." This eliminates any frustration, such as premature ejaculation or even erectile failure, that is not uncommon in any sexual relationship. Just enjoy the process, and not being mindful of the outcome. Zen is about the present moment. Zen sex has nothing to do with you what you did before, or what you are going to do in future. It is all about now -- the present moment you are enjoying with your partner. Let the moment come without rushing into it. When you rush towards it, you may lose the feeling of self-control, or you may focus on "doing it." On the other hand, if you just relax and enjoy the moment, you end up doing it without consciously "doing it."

Just make love in sex. You can discover the sublime trurh of life in anything and anywhere. The glory of creation abounds and surrounds each and every one of us. Only you can capture its significance in that very present moment of Zen sex. Just make love in sex, and enjoy every moment of it.